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A self-development podcast with philosophical, psychological and literary flair hosted by Victoria Hutchins, the creator of @thedailyvictorian. Giving your soul something to chew on every Sunday.

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Jemma Sbeg is a prominent podcaster and author known for her work on the Psychology of Your 20s podcast. She has gained recognition for her insights into the psychological aspects of dating and relationships, particularly for young adults navigating their twenties. Jemma is also the author of 'Person in Progress', a book that serves as a roadmap for individuals seeking to understand and thrive during the transitional decade of their twenties. Her work emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and emotional intelligence in personal development.

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0:00 44:47

How to Care Less What People Think

Hosts
Victoria Hutchins
Keywords
self-development external validation approval social perception emotional control validation avoidance self-awareness social psychology

The bad news is you’re always going to care what people think. The good news is  it doesn’t have to control your life. In this episode, I walk through 9 ways to rethink your relationship with external validation. If you want to be done letting other people’s opinions steer your every move, this one’s for you.


EPISODE OUTLINE


00:00 Intro

05:28 1. Caring what people think is natural

07:14 2. You can’t control how you feel, but you can control what you do 

16:07 3. You should care what some people think 

18:16 4. Not caring what people think ≠ not caring about people

19:45 5. Chasing approval always backfires eventually

26:21 6. You don’t know what people think

30:29 7. Other people are not thinking about you as much as it feels like they are

35:32 8. You care more about other people’s opinions when you don’t have your own

37:28 9. It’s okay to want to be with people who make you feel good

39:27 Lightning round recap

42:29 Challenge


EPISODE LINKS


The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz 

Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl 

The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir

The Art of Living by Epictetus 

Spotlight Effect Study 

Social Rejection Triggers Physical Pain Brain Centers 

Surgeon General's Report on the Health Impact of Loneliness 


MY LINKS


⁠MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a signed copy of MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow Bookshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the waitlist for future retreats! 

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

0:00 49:06

How to Find Your True Self According to Philosophy

Hosts
Victoria Hutchins
Keywords
self-development philosophy psychology literature authenticity masks shadows attachment theory Socrates Simone de Beauvoir Carl Jung Sigmund Freud Rousseau Sartre Heidegger Kant Nietzsche Jealousy self-identity

Is the self something we find—or something we create? We’re constantly told to “be ourselves,” but the world teaches us fast that we also need to be likable, marketable, and hot. No wonder we’re all confused. In this episode, we dive into how different philosophers—from Socrates to Simone de Beauvoir to Carl Jung—understood the search for the true self and how their insights can help us stop performing and start living more honestly. If you’ve ever felt like you’re performing your personality instead of living it, this one’s for you.


EPISODE OUTLINE 


00:00 Intro

05:49 Sigmund Freud

09:08 Attachment theory (Bowlby & Ainsworth)

10:55 Carl Jung’s theory on masks and shadows

12:15 The chill girl mask (Gone Girl)

13:34 Shapeshifter (MAKE BELIEVE

14:38 The masks vs. the Self

15:04 Rousseau’s natural vs. social man

17:15 Using logic to hide from passion 

17:55 For the ones who left (MAKE BELIEVE)

19:37 Freud, Jung & Rousseau reflection questions 

21:48 Sartre: owning your agency as authenticity

23:08 Sartre’s concept of bad faith 

24:12 Simone de Beauvoir on social class 

26:41 The upper limit theory (Gay Hendricks)

27:25 But also, the playing field isn’t level

27:48 Sartre & de Beauvoir reflection questions

29:27 Heidegger: inauthenticity due to death denial 

31:33 Authenticity vs. ethics and compassion

33:23 Authenticity vs. self-protection 

34:01 Kant’s categorical imperative

34:48 Socrates: dying on the hill of authenticity

35:26 Socrates and Kant reflection questions

36:46 Nietzsche on creation of the true self 

37:17 Does everyone have a calling?

38:19 Jealousy as a clue to your passions

38:33 The “love it for you, want it for me” folder

39:53 Nothing grows if you don’t water it

40:18 Nietzsche reflection questions  

41:50 Lightning round recap 


EPISODE LINKS


Carl Jung, The Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious (1959) and Modern Man in Search of a Soul (1933)

Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness (1943)

Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex (1949)

Authenticity episode of In Our Time: Philosophy



MY LINKS


⁠MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a signed copy of MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow Bookshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

 

0:00 44:14

A 3-Step Roadmap Out of Your Rut

Hosts
Victoria Hutchins
Keywords
burnout creative freeze life change neuroscience psychology philosophy perfectionism procrastination self-compassion

In a flop era that feels like it will never end? I know that feeling. If you’re in a rut—whether it’s burnout, a creative freeze, or a “what now” spiral after a big life change—I made this episode for you. I share about my own recent rut, what helped me get through it, and a practical 3-step roadmap grounded in neuroscience, psychology, and philosophy. This one’s part pep talk, part game plan, part love letter to anyone feeling stuck.

 

EPISODE OUTLINE 


00:00 Intro 

02:00 My “what now?” rut

06:46 Roadmap out of your rut 

08:06 1. Get your story straight

08:29 You haven’t ruined your life 

09:48 My bar exam story

15:48 You are not alone

16:26 Lifequakes

17:55 You are not lazy 

18:54 Are you burnt out?

20:44 The classic existential crash out 

22:14 Are you in functional freeze?

23:42 Perfectionism-procrastination-paralysis cycle

26:31 2. Make a plan 

26:47 Friction audit (Adam Alter)

30:01 Smallest possible actions 

32:47 Lower the bar or you won’t reach for it

33:43 The photography class experiment 

38:13 3. Have grace for yourself 

38:21 How dare you say you’re not trying?

39:20 What you have to give right now is enough

39:53 Lightning round recap 

 

MY LINKS


⁠MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a signed copy of MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow Bookshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

 

0:00 48:43

The Psychological Formula for Attraction ft. Jemma Sbeg

Hosts
Victoria Hutchins
Guests
Jemma Sbeg
Keywords
attraction situationships emotional unavailability commitment-readiness scale psychology of dating Person in Progress spark reciprocity dating pitfalls stigma of being single

What actually makes us feel drawn to someone—and what makes us cling to situationships long after we can see the glaring red flags of emotional unavailability?


In today's episode, I’m joined by my first-ever guest (!!) and one of my favorite podcasters of all time, Jemma Sbeg—host of the wildly popular Psychology of Your 20s podcast and the author of Person in Progress. If you’ve ever screamed-cried in your car after someone you weren’t even officially dating ghosted you, this one’s for you.


A few things we dive into:


  • A research-backed formula for attraction (and how to use it without playing games)
  • The role of the “spark” in attraction
  • The psychology behind common dating pitfalls in your 20s
  • The stigma of being single
  • The commitment-readiness scale (and why it can land you in situationship after situationship)


Jemma also shares insights from PERSON IN PROGRESS—a roadmap for surviving the chaotic, confusing, deeply transitional decade that is your twenties—and offers advice to her younger self that made me tear up a little. Whether you’re trying to understand your patterns, make sense of someone else's, or just feel a little less alone in the dating trenches, this one will stick with you.


EPISODE OUTLINE


00:00 Intro
02:51 The formula for attraction
04:21 1. Proximity
07:10 2. Similarity
11:43 3. Familiarity
14:03 The 3 month rule
16:55 The curse of comfort
19:31 The sunk cost fallacy
21:06 The fear of starting over
22:37 4. Reciprocity
23:13 The harm of playing games
26:36 5. A spark
27:19 The psychology of common relationship pitfalls
27:31 1. Repetition compulsion
31:04 2. The stigma of being single
36:45 3. Situationships
38:23 The commitment-readiness scale
40:21 Permission slip to grieve your situationship <3
42:09 Lightning round recap
43:26 Last question: what would you tell past you?

PERSON IN PROGRESS


If you liked this episode, you will love PERSON IN PROGRESS. Out now and available everywhere you buy books. Get your copy today!


PERSON IN PROGRESS BY JEMMA SBEG

PERSON IN PROGRESS BY JEMMA SBEG

PERSON IN PROGRESS BY JEMMA SBEG


MY LINKS


⁠MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a signed copy of MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow Bookshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

 

PS - This is the study I mentioned that found that single women are one of the happiest demographics on Earth. And an article about it here!

0:00 27:16

10 Paradoxes That Will Alter Your Brain Chemistry

Hosts
Victoria Hutchins
Keywords
paradoxes brain chemistry likability paradox paradox of choice Dunning-Kruger Effect paradox of failure paradox of tolerance Jean-Paul Sartre James Baldwin paradox of moving on ironic process theory paradox of pleasure Aristotle Viktor Frankl dopamine trap paradox of freedom self-determination theory Kierkegaard paradox of shadow sides Carl Jung paradox of the comfort zone

What if the things you believe about life, love, success, and happiness are backwards? In today’s episode, we’re diving into 10 paradoxes: the little plot twists, contradictions, and life surprises I wish someone had warned me about. Learning these the hard way cost me a lot of time and heartbreak, and my hope is that sharing them now saves you some of yours. Hit play for a big, juicy reality check.


EPISODE OUTLINE


00:00 Intro

01:23 1. The likability paradox

03:12 2. The paradox of choice

06:09 3. The paradox of knowledge

06:52 The Dunning-Kruger Effect

08:22 4. The paradox of failure

09:12 Not choosing is a choice (Jean-Paul Sartre)

10:33 5. The paradox of tolerance (Karl Popper)

11:03 James Baldwin on agreeing to disagree

12:20 6. The paradox of moving on

12:46 Ironic process theory

14:19 7. The paradox of pleasure

15:37 Aristotle's virtue-based happiness

16:08 Viktor Frankl on happiness

17:07 The dopamine trap

18:03 8. The paradox of freedom

18:33 Self-determination theory

20:02 The dizziness of freedom (Kierkegaard)

20:52 9. The paradox of shadow sides (Carl Jung)

22:54 10. The paradox of the comfort zone

24:46 Lightning round recap


MY LINKS


⁠MAKE BELIEVE is out everywhere now⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get a signed copy of MAKE BELIEVE from Blue Willow Bookshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find me @thedailyvictorian on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find me @thedailyvictorian on TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

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